If you find yourself in an abusive relationship there are a number of things you can do and should do. First of all, safety is of utmost concern. If you feel you are in danger of physical harm, or if you feel your children are, then this should be your first priority. There are certain characteristics that define an abusive relationship. Generally, it can be characterized by one party seeking control or power over another.
If you are in a position where you feel unsafe, you need to start creating a plan for separating. Start looking for people or groups who can help you and provide support. This may be relatives, friends, community groups, your church, or social agencies that deal with abuse situations. It is a good idea to stay away from e-mails if you fear your abusive spouse might read them and get angered.
Once you are moved away safely, the next point of action would be to file for a restraining order and speak with an attorney about divorce or legal separation.
If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence, contact Claery & Hammond, LLP today for an appointment with a dedicated Los Angeles family law attorney.